As a Dominatrix, it is not uncommon that I have a session with a submissive that feels shame about being a slut. So many people have shame about their desires and it kills Me a little each time I hear My submissive’s stories, because no matter what your preference or kink you are wonderful and not abnormal! Unless humiliation is your kink, wanting to be humiliated for your kink is a whole other topic and in that case you are a dirty pervert and why would anyone want to be around you. Here we will be approaching being a slut in a positive light and in its truest wonderful form. The societal taboo and shame of being a slut, followed by performing and getting off on the actions of a slut despite the shame, is such a wonderful aspect of kink and the way the mind works. Would being a slut be a kink if society was ok with it? Regardless, this entry is more about how one should be accepting and love their slutty self. 

Men are taught to be ‘manly’, to be in control of every facet in their life and be the one that is making the decisions. This is even truer when it comes to sex. They aren’t supposed to be submissive, to get turned on by having something inserted in their ass, heck they aren’t even supposed to want to even try it. But, so, so, so many people do and it is time to embrace your kink!  

The ‘male slut’ tends to blur very easily into ‘becoming a sissy’. I do recognize that there are many sluts out there that just love their holes being used by their Mistress and not have the need to be sissified or forced to suck real cock. I will be writing a blog dedicated to My wonderful sissies in the very near future, so be on the lookout.  

Women have a different, yet also similar, shame with being a slut. In general society, Women are told to be pretty enough to get attention, but not to enjoy or flaunt the attention. And sex, well no respectable Woman would want all three of their holes filled up, now would they?! Of course they would! I do love playing with My slutty Ladies, They are just begging to be used and abused and have their brains do a backflip in the process.  

As a society the more that we don’t talk about our sexual wants and desires, the more taboo it becomes. People are so concerned about their partner finding out about their interests and fetishes and they are also worried that if they share this information with their partner that their partner will leave them. I do completely understand this concern about being banished for being truthful, but again the more that we discuss this topic in society the less taboo this will be. Personally, I also feel that if you aren’t able to be completely truthful with your partner, then this partner isn’t for you. I do recognize that it is possible you can’t get all your needs met by one person (such as your partner) and you prefer to be degraded and humiliated (as an example) by someone that isn’t the love of your life. This is completely acceptable, but again, communicate this with your partner and don’t feel ashamed about it. No matter what you have been told in the past, your fetishes are normal and there are likely more extreme fetishes out there than what you have. This is where My profession comes in, a Dominatrix is the perfect architect of all your kinky desires.   

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I highly recommend getting involved in your local kink community, or even online fetish communities. Fetlife is a good place to start as well as attending kink events (post pandemic of course!) such as munches or parties. There are a plethora of options out there and they will give you a sense of community, acceptance and a safe place to explore yourself and your kinks. Now, there are plenty of creeps out there, but trust your gut/instincts and it will take you down the right rabbit hole. It is just important for you to know that you aren’t alone and that thousands and thousands of people are just like you and love to be a dirty slut. 

I don’t care what gender you identify as, craving having a cock inside you isn’t bad, craving wanting to suck on a cock isn’t bad and craving being called a whore isn’t bad either. Give in to those urges, don’t suppress them or tell them that they are wrong. Kink is a form of therapy (NOT THE ONLY FORM!) and it can be a driving force to your own empowerment regardless of your dynamic. Seeing submissives explore and grow as they explore their kink is such a wonderful procress. I enjoy being a facilitator of one’s darkest desires; I am a Dominatrix after all! I adore getting to know what makes My submissive tick, what a slut is to them, why they want to be a slut and what actions make them feel like a slut. In fact I have written a whole blog about My love for Cock Sucking Sluts. It is oh so much fun to watch My submissive’s inhibitions disappear and for them to become closer and closer to their true form.